My style evolution over the years!
How are y’all holding up? I hope you are well, and ready for today’s topic coz ya already know, Ur girl Tabie is always ready and of course, in the mood to make it right ✅
Without wasting time, let’s go right into the gig today, ‘how to escape a style rut’ with reference to my style journey because, its just recent that i decided to revamp my wardrobe. Believe me guys, most of us are stuck in a particular style and don’t even notice it because we normalized the thing and don’t realize that after some time, wearing the same things over and over again becomes so dull and boring. In case some are wondering, Rut, according to the English Dictionary is defined as: “A habit or pattern of behaviour that has become dull and unproductive, but is hard to change.”
Like i said, a style rut mostly goes unnoticed, some will definitely notice it but are not ready to accept change therefore stay stagnated. A wise woman once said, “There’s a fine line between sticking to a look and being stuck in it” You know u are in a style rut when you’re still keeping those pants that u had a decade ago. You may not necesarily be wearing them now and again but for some reason can’t let go. Another sign is when people start commenting about your clothes. For instance, a friend asking you questions like, are those not the pair of pants you wore the day before yesterday? or did u just repeat that t-shirt? … Sometimes you may go shopping and come back with absolutely nothing, like out of all the choices you had, nothing interested you? Honey, if start seing these signs you are in a certified style rut. Time for a transformation!
The truth is, your style should change with you over time. For those who have seen me growing, u’ll agree with me that I used to be the Jeggings, leggings type of person. My first year in college, i don’t recall owning anything else other than a bunch of jeggings and blouses. i was never the dress and skirts person or let alone normal cotton or decent trousers but jeggings lol. So when i go shopping, it always used to be the same idea of clothes, am sure i had over 10 identical black jeggings that people outside didn’t even notice that its a different pair when i wear because such things bring no life, there’s nothing interesting to look at. I lived in this style rut for about 2-3 yrs, then came my Parazzo and boyfriend pants era which i am still struggling to escape these days after i noticed that i don’t wear anything else other than that.
One morning at work, some guy Selling Parazzos was passing by our office and my boss literally screamed my name and said, “Zovala zako zomwe umakonda zijatu izi” -translation; The kind of pants that you like are here!… i found it odd because first of, i didn’t know people noticed my style and reached to that point where an older man like my boss could relate me to some type of clothing the moment he saw it from that guy who was selling. I realized that wow? girl, you have been wearing nothing but parazzos since last year, and it got worse to the point that wearing a skinny jean or any tight pants didn’t sit well with me. That incident kind of opened me up to a the me that i am now. I love mixing and trying out new fashion trends because i made my wardrobe flexible with a variety of fabrics that of course define who i am in a particular way.
I mean if u go back to my old post a year ago about ‘know your style‘ i emphasized on how much i didn’t like looking official. But is my life the same as it was then? Absolutely not- are my priorities the same? What of my income now that am not a college student any more?
It is now that i am beggining to understand that Yes, a style is learnable!
Now i am comfortable wearing dresses outside unlike back then when i was stuck in my style that completely locked my mind. I was convinced that dresses are not for me and i rarely touched or shopped any. I could feel psychologically uncomfortable when i try out a dress especially in public. Now i own over ten dresses and believe me, they feel great.
HOW TO ESCAPE REALLY:
One simple and most effective tactic that i got from @www.thegentlemansjournal.com is “Detoxing your wardrobe”
It reads, “Detoxing is the best thing you will do. Keep your wardrobe simple, with clean neutral tones so you can mix and match. This will make dressing so much easier. I always think, ‘If I was shopping right now, would I buy that item again?’ Probably not!”
I remember how i used to have a line of converse shoes on my shoe rack because i used to think am already too tall for heels.
Now i look in the mirror every time i dress up because everything doesn’t look so familiar like it used to. I could just put on my leggings and a pair of converse and burst out of the house because in my mind i already know how that looks on me. But now it’s a whole different look because times have changed and i take time to appreciate or judge my look on the mirror – I officially escaped my style rut phase and i am very proud ! what are y’all waiting for?
So guys, update that wardrobe, clean it up, trash all those clothes u know deep down u can live without and go shopping regularly. Most people get lid of clothes because they don’t fit any more, not because they are old or out of style. Come on… You can do better than that, change is flattering!! ESCAPE ESCAPE AND ESCAPE BEING A STYLE RUT TODAY❌